To everyone who is having a hard time in their life.

 

“At this point in my life, all I care about is that I have to go up. There is no time left for me to have a breakdown, or for me to be weak. I have faced this bullshit before, and I need to get my shit together and face this shit with double the power than before. Because God gave me the problems before that had a positive effect on me and he is giving those to me again because I need to focus my energy on something else, something greater. He is just reminding me that my real happiness lies somewhere else.”

So sweetie, get yourself together cause you have absolutely no time to be with or burden your heart with thoughts of people who suck the life out of you. You pay no attention to them and show them what you’re made of by your hard work and determination. That’s who you are sweetheart. You are not someone who hurts someone’s feelings to look super cool, (because apparently that’s the only thing they’re good at.) Nor someone who leaves you hanging only because they think they’ve found someone better than you, only to get their heart broken and coming back to you? Babe, You’re amazing. You’re someone who wants to be happy, and spread happiness, that’s what your personality is. That’s what your life is supposed to be!

You have to achieve the greater things in life, and thinking about small minded people would only get you down, a place where they deserve to be, not you. And if you give them enough importance to ruin your day (or life), that only means that you think highly of them, and that would obviously make them feel important and confident enough to ruin your smile, your happiness.

You were created because you matter. You were created because God had a plan for you. You were created because God wanted to change someone’s life by your existence. If anything, don’t insult God’s plan by thinking how unnecessary and unworthy you are. Because baby that’s not true, God created you because he wanted you to be in this world, either because you have a purpose in your life, or someone else’s life. There is something in you that the world desperately needs! You are one of the reasons this world exists. And love, you deserve the world for the heart of gold you have, and for the efforts you make for people to be comfortable and happy!

 

You’re the sun, Spread your light and make this world a better place to live!

Love,

Fiya!

 

 

 

 

 

Today is my friend’s birthday, but…

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Today is my friend’s 18th birthday.

I did attend her surprise birthday party and gave her a nice gift, wished her on time and put on an obligatory birthday wish status and display picture with her to tell her how much she means to me. But as I was typing a long birthday wish for her, I had a flashback of the moments we have spent together in college and the only thing that came in my mind was a bitter comment made by her about me in front of everyone, including me. The memory of that day and that moment was still alive, hemmed in some corner of my brain, now dancing shamelessly like a harlot in front of my eyes, reminding me of the day my soul was torn apart from my body.

It wasn’t a bad comment on my character, it was on my personality. The reason it pierced my heart so much was because I have heard that comment before, from someone else, someone who claimed to be my best friend. And even though we are still in contact whenever I think about her the first thing that comes in my mind is the same comment. And I’d be lying if I say that it doesn’t hurt me. Because it does. It certainly does. And we all know that physical wounds can be healed but emotional wounds cannot. The pain of that comment will always stay in my heart and even if that (the birthday girl) was incredibly sweet and helpful to me in past, even though she apologized a lot for that comment later on and even though I have forgiven her, the first memory that comes of her in my mind will always be that same comment.

Please, never think for a moment that your words don’t have any effect on others.  Bitter words hurt more than the peeling of skin from our body with the help of a knife, more than the pain of a completely broken nail from our skin. And even if you think someone is not as good as you please keep it to yourself and don’t say that on their face. Because there is a 99% chance he already knows that, and secretly he is just trying to change that. Think from your heart before you speak, keep yourself in his place and think how would you feel if you were him and someone said the same to you? You would never forgive him/her. It takes a trillion compliments to build someone’s personality and your one harsh comment can take it all down, or worse, just kill him from inside.

Spread peace, love and kindness!

Love,

Fiya.

20 Lessons I learnt in 2014

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2014 is over (CALLS FOR A PARTY) and well lets get straight to the point, Here’s a list of 20 lessons I learnt in 2014.

1- Looks dont matter:

Nope, they dont. Infact mostly the prettiest and classiest people have the ugliest and dirtiest hearts

2- No one deserves a second chance:

Speaking from experience, if they hurt you intentionally, baby you gotta let ’em go!

3- Not all popular people are nice:

Dont be fooled, 90% of them just pretend to be ‘nice’
(All that glitters is not gold)

4- Make friends of every kind:

The cool bros, the nerdy ones, the party animals and the shy ones.
Trust me on this, you’ll learn alot of lessons from each of them.

5- Walk away from people who bring you down:

Living or being with people who suck the life out of you is hellish, and I swear its not worth it.

6- Being dumb is not cute:

Being smart is.

7- Dont be a bitch:

Be nice to everyone, you dont know what their story is.

8- Your parents are the biggest blessings you have:

Words can not do justice to the love I get from my parents and the respect I have for them.

9- Never say shit about old friends:

Unless ofcourse its the truth, dont spread mean stuff about your old pals, one day you guys WILL patch up and having a clear ‘gossip history’ will make things less awkward for you both.

10- Being shy gets you nowhere:

It will just make you look self obssessed and rude.

11- There is a right time for everything:

Stop rushing into things. Your time will come too.

12- Work for your goals and stop whining:

You can do it. Work hard till you reach the sky.

13- Your point of view can be wrong too:

Open your heart to other beliefs, other opinions and other suggestions and you’ll see a world worth living for.

14- Dont be afraid to ask for help:

Google cant solve all your problems, love. Asking for help or accepting that you need help is better than falling into dipshithole

15- No one is perfect:

Learn to forgive yourself and others. It will make life easier and happier

16- You cant please everyone:

So dont even try. Live your life.

17- Dont take anything/anyone for granted:

Nah, not even the super annoying sickface class mate who is stupid but helps you with your homework. You’ll miss them when they’re gone.

18- Learn to appreciate others:

It will make their day, or their life. You never know.

19- Never ditch a chance to enjoy life:

You’ll regret it after that chance is gone.

20- And the most important of them all, LOVE YOURSELF:

You’re all that will be with you forever, so love yourself alot, pamper yourself and never let that sweet smile of yours turn into a scary frown!

HAPPY NEW YEAR!

Love,
Fiya.

No more nightmares!

Maybe this is the start of my blissful journey towards a renewed life

Maybe this is the ecstasy that I had been longing for.

 

Love,

Fiya.

Struggles of a young blogger

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My basic struggle as a young blogger is the language barrier. English is my third language, the first two being Urdu and Punjabi. I usually have a lot of ideas and expressions in my mind but as cool and amusing they sound in Urdu, when I convert them into English they seem absurd and boring.

My second struggle or fear—whatever you call it, is that I’m afraid to get judged. I mean, I’ve a lot to say on my mind but I dare not transform them into words, fearing that I will be labeled as ‘young ungrateful narcissist B****’

My third struggle is writing to please my audience. I think twice about posting stuff on wordpress because I’m afraid no one would appreciate my work and reject me. But Getting rejected is everyone’s greatest fear, isn’t it?

I’m currently trying to confront my fears and sparing no effort to make sense of my words. I hope that I succeed in it.

I love it how people on Word press tell me that I don’t seem to be so young, I’m like that since forever. My grandpa says I have a 50 year old head on my 17 years old shoulder.
Really Grandpa? Am I as smart as a 50 year old? Well, Nevermind.
But Oh, don’t underestimate me; I’m still as cool as a cucumber 😉

With this post, I continue my journey as a young blogger.

Rawr!
Fiya.

Day 1: 100 good deeds challenge,

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Day1: Big or small, a deed is a deed. What if a small good deed that means nothing to you, means a lot to someone? What if it is enough to save someone’s life?

My five good deeds of today are as follows:

1- Donated two of my dresses to charity (a maid who needed clothes for her little girls, I belong to a poor country, you see)

2- Donated a very small part of my pocket money to a cancer hospital (My dear country fellows, you all know which hospital I am talking about. Don’t you? * smirks *)

3-
Prepared a dessert for my family (Going to post the recipe later, Promise!)

4- Watered some plants (I’ve a beautiful, spacious lawn at the front yard of my home, one of the blessings of Almighty God)

5-
Fulfilled a promise that I made to my younger brother (Brought Cola for him)


Don’t forget to do a good deed every day!
🙂

Love,

Fiya.

100 good deeds. A challenge.

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Hello mates!
This is a sweet little challenge to my own self.I’ve to do atleast three good deeds every day. I know that it is not a good practice to show off your good deeds as it’s forbidden in every religion and is also considered boorish and impolite in society but as I have decided to motivate everyone else, I shall be posting my three (or more) good deeds a day. Please consider it a reminder to do a good deed and not as a way of showing off.

So,What does your religion say about doing good deeds?

“Good deeds annul evil deeds. This is a reminder for the mindful”
-Islam Qur’an 11.114

“And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.”
-Christianity, Galatians 6:9

“Whoever, by a good deed, covers the evil done, such a one illumines this world like the moon freed from clouds”
-Buddhism. Dhammapada 173

“Heaven is not attained without good deeds.”
-Sikhism. Adi Granth, Ramkali-ki-Var, M.1, p. 952

“I call heaven and earth to witness: whether Jew or Gentile, whether man or woman, whether servant or freeman, they are all equal in this: that the Holy Spirit rests upon them in accordance with their deeds!”
-Judaism. Midrash, Seder Eliyyahu Rabbah 10

“No one who does good deeds will ever come to a bad end, either here or in the world to come. When such people die, they go to other realms where the righteous live.”
-Hinduism. Bhagavad Gita 6.40-41

You never know which of your good deed becomes your ticket to heaven.

With compassion, benevolence and for the cause of humanity,

Fiya.