Today is my friend’s birthday, but…

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Today is my friend’s 18th birthday.

I did attend her surprise birthday party and gave her a nice gift, wished her on time and put on an obligatory birthday wish status and display picture with her to tell her how much she means to me. But as I was typing a long birthday wish for her, I had a flashback of the moments we have spent together in college and the only thing that came in my mind was a bitter comment made by her about me in front of everyone, including me. The memory of that day and that moment was still alive, hemmed in some corner of my brain, now dancing shamelessly like a harlot in front of my eyes, reminding me of the day my soul was torn apart from my body.

It wasn’t a bad comment on my character, it was on my personality. The reason it pierced my heart so much was because I have heard that comment before, from someone else, someone who claimed to be my best friend. And even though we are still in contact whenever I think about her the first thing that comes in my mind is the same comment. And I’d be lying if I say that it doesn’t hurt me. Because it does. It certainly does. And we all know that physical wounds can be healed but emotional wounds cannot. The pain of that comment will always stay in my heart and even if that (the birthday girl) was incredibly sweet and helpful to me in past, even though she apologized a lot for that comment later on and even though I have forgiven her, the first memory that comes of her in my mind will always be that same comment.

Please, never think for a moment that your words don’t have any effect on others.  Bitter words hurt more than the peeling of skin from our body with the help of a knife, more than the pain of a completely broken nail from our skin. And even if you think someone is not as good as you please keep it to yourself and don’t say that on their face. Because there is a 99% chance he already knows that, and secretly he is just trying to change that. Think from your heart before you speak, keep yourself in his place and think how would you feel if you were him and someone said the same to you? You would never forgive him/her. It takes a trillion compliments to build someone’s personality and your one harsh comment can take it all down, or worse, just kill him from inside.

Spread peace, love and kindness!

Love,

Fiya.

20 Lessons I learnt in 2014

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2014 is over (CALLS FOR A PARTY) and well lets get straight to the point, Here’s a list of 20 lessons I learnt in 2014.

1- Looks dont matter:

Nope, they dont. Infact mostly the prettiest and classiest people have the ugliest and dirtiest hearts

2- No one deserves a second chance:

Speaking from experience, if they hurt you intentionally, baby you gotta let ’em go!

3- Not all popular people are nice:

Dont be fooled, 90% of them just pretend to be ‘nice’
(All that glitters is not gold)

4- Make friends of every kind:

The cool bros, the nerdy ones, the party animals and the shy ones.
Trust me on this, you’ll learn alot of lessons from each of them.

5- Walk away from people who bring you down:

Living or being with people who suck the life out of you is hellish, and I swear its not worth it.

6- Being dumb is not cute:

Being smart is.

7- Dont be a bitch:

Be nice to everyone, you dont know what their story is.

8- Your parents are the biggest blessings you have:

Words can not do justice to the love I get from my parents and the respect I have for them.

9- Never say shit about old friends:

Unless ofcourse its the truth, dont spread mean stuff about your old pals, one day you guys WILL patch up and having a clear ‘gossip history’ will make things less awkward for you both.

10- Being shy gets you nowhere:

It will just make you look self obssessed and rude.

11- There is a right time for everything:

Stop rushing into things. Your time will come too.

12- Work for your goals and stop whining:

You can do it. Work hard till you reach the sky.

13- Your point of view can be wrong too:

Open your heart to other beliefs, other opinions and other suggestions and you’ll see a world worth living for.

14- Dont be afraid to ask for help:

Google cant solve all your problems, love. Asking for help or accepting that you need help is better than falling into dipshithole

15- No one is perfect:

Learn to forgive yourself and others. It will make life easier and happier

16- You cant please everyone:

So dont even try. Live your life.

17- Dont take anything/anyone for granted:

Nah, not even the super annoying sickface class mate who is stupid but helps you with your homework. You’ll miss them when they’re gone.

18- Learn to appreciate others:

It will make their day, or their life. You never know.

19- Never ditch a chance to enjoy life:

You’ll regret it after that chance is gone.

20- And the most important of them all, LOVE YOURSELF:

You’re all that will be with you forever, so love yourself alot, pamper yourself and never let that sweet smile of yours turn into a scary frown!

HAPPY NEW YEAR!

Love,
Fiya.

Laila

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★Laila:
With each swirl of the swing,she laughs and cries. The color of her cheeks turning from pale yellow to red. And far away stands a woman begging at a mosque for a child. Laila laughs and cries at the same time, hiding the sad betrayal in her eyes. Oh such a lovely girl she is, they say. But who knows the tragedy that made her live a life in orphanage. Her father did not want her, her grandparents despised her, her mother never saw her. Oh such a sad girl, they say. Laughing and crying at the same time, abandoned by her father for being his 13th daughter, left alone in this huge world for being a less powerful human, dumped by daddy, cared by none!

And far away a woman cries in the mosque, praying everyday for a child.

I’m learning French!

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I’m learning a new language!

Well, actually I’m trying to learn French, a language that I’m sure I don’t need to learn because I don’t think my life will ever take me to France or any African country where I’d have to use it. But well, I LOVE travelling and exploring different cultures so you never know. Maybe one day God would have mercy on me and take me to all those places that I really really really want to go.

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I wish.

Well, For today, I learnt eleven phrases.

  1. Bonjour— Hello!
  2. Mon prenom est Fiya— My name is Fiya
  3. Comment allez-vous?— How are you?
  4. Je suis tres bien— I’m fine
  5. Je t’aime— I love you
  6. Mademoiselle— Miss!
  7. Comment s’appelle ton pere?— What is your father’s name?
  8. Mon pere s’appelle S.S.M— My father’s name is S.S.M
  9. Je suis perdu— I am lost
  10. Aidez-moi!— help me!
  11. Au Revoir!— Goodbye!

I’m so excited to learn more. When I learn something it makes me feel so useful and valuable. It makes me feel that I’m not totally wasting my life doing nothing and that I’m turning myself into a prized possession. I love learning and expanding my knowledge. For me, learning is a necessary exercise for my brain and I want my brain to be in action 24/7.

I really want to share a power boosting quote with you guys, I’m not really sure who said it but the internet says Mahatma Gandhi said it so I’m giving credits to him.

“Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.”
-Mahatma Gandhi.


Au Revoir!

Fiya.

Struggles of a young blogger

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My basic struggle as a young blogger is the language barrier. English is my third language, the first two being Urdu and Punjabi. I usually have a lot of ideas and expressions in my mind but as cool and amusing they sound in Urdu, when I convert them into English they seem absurd and boring.

My second struggle or fear—whatever you call it, is that I’m afraid to get judged. I mean, I’ve a lot to say on my mind but I dare not transform them into words, fearing that I will be labeled as ‘young ungrateful narcissist B****’

My third struggle is writing to please my audience. I think twice about posting stuff on wordpress because I’m afraid no one would appreciate my work and reject me. But Getting rejected is everyone’s greatest fear, isn’t it?

I’m currently trying to confront my fears and sparing no effort to make sense of my words. I hope that I succeed in it.

I love it how people on Word press tell me that I don’t seem to be so young, I’m like that since forever. My grandpa says I have a 50 year old head on my 17 years old shoulder.
Really Grandpa? Am I as smart as a 50 year old? Well, Nevermind.
But Oh, don’t underestimate me; I’m still as cool as a cucumber 😉

With this post, I continue my journey as a young blogger.

Rawr!
Fiya.

100 good deeds. A challenge.

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Hello mates!
This is a sweet little challenge to my own self.I’ve to do atleast three good deeds every day. I know that it is not a good practice to show off your good deeds as it’s forbidden in every religion and is also considered boorish and impolite in society but as I have decided to motivate everyone else, I shall be posting my three (or more) good deeds a day. Please consider it a reminder to do a good deed and not as a way of showing off.

So,What does your religion say about doing good deeds?

“Good deeds annul evil deeds. This is a reminder for the mindful”
-Islam Qur’an 11.114

“And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.”
-Christianity, Galatians 6:9

“Whoever, by a good deed, covers the evil done, such a one illumines this world like the moon freed from clouds”
-Buddhism. Dhammapada 173

“Heaven is not attained without good deeds.”
-Sikhism. Adi Granth, Ramkali-ki-Var, M.1, p. 952

“I call heaven and earth to witness: whether Jew or Gentile, whether man or woman, whether servant or freeman, they are all equal in this: that the Holy Spirit rests upon them in accordance with their deeds!”
-Judaism. Midrash, Seder Eliyyahu Rabbah 10

“No one who does good deeds will ever come to a bad end, either here or in the world to come. When such people die, they go to other realms where the righteous live.”
-Hinduism. Bhagavad Gita 6.40-41

You never know which of your good deed becomes your ticket to heaven.

With compassion, benevolence and for the cause of humanity,

Fiya.